#2. Figuring Out Personal Boundaries

This Conversation Will Help You…

1. Define personal boundaries
2. Talk about different kinds of boundaries
3. Name three boundaries they have

Think About This First

•  This conversation helps frame the idea of personal boundaries within different contexts and asks questions to help think about boundaries

Having the Conversation

Start Here:

How would you define personal boundaries?

Sometimes I hear the word “boundaries” and think physical boundaries – what other kinds of boundaries are there?

How do most people usually learn about boundaries?

Continue:

How do personal boundaries change as someone gets older?

How are personal boundaries different based on the relationship with another person?

Like, would personal boundaries be different with a friend than a family member?

What about a stranger?

Keep Talking:

Do you have different boundaries with a friend than with a partner?

What are the biggest differences?

Do you ever have to change the boundaries you have set up with someone?

Why would you want to change your idea of boundaries with a certain person?

What kinds of boundaries do your friends have? How do you know?

Are your boundaries pretty similar, or different? How are they different?

Do you think that people from other cultures have different boundaries?

How are they different? How are they similar?

Have you ever had a conflict with someone who had very different boundaries than you? What did you do?

I’ve experienced that a couple times before, here is what I did ___________.

Comments

Another question: How do you respect the boundaries of other people? How do you know that the other person thinks that you're being respectful?