#80. How to Express that Something is Offensive
Wednesday, June 27, 2012 at 5:32PM
[Your Name Here] in Bystander, call out, ouch

This Conversation Will Help You…


  1. Determine if it’s safe to say something
  2. Express views
  3. Name own values



Think About This First



Having the Conversation


Start here:

What are some times when a friend says something offensive?

Does this happen a lot?

What does it usually happen about?

I’ve had it happen in my life in these ways: _______.

What’s the most frustrating for you?

Are there certain things that you feel like you want to take a stand on with your friends?

What kinds of things feel important to speak up about?

How do you know that it’s okay to say something?



Have you seen this video? (link)

He has an idea about how you can call someone out, and this video is about race, but do you think it could be used in other situations?

Are there things you relate to with this video?

What do you think the benefit is with calling out someone’s action rather than calling them racist/sexist/homophobic/etc?

What are some ways to turn it into a conversation rather than a confrontation?


Keep Talking:  

What are some of your values around these topics?

Is it okay for your friends or family to have different values than you?

Are there things you just don’t feel like people should say?

Why do you feel that way?

How do you express these values to other people?

Are there ways that have worked particularly well for you?

I’ve expressed my values before this way: __________.

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